A Facebook Note by Jewels Aponte on Sunday, February 22, 2009 at 10:54am
A woman I work with posted a status on her facebook it was: ...is gonna have to discuss Chris Brown/Rihanna and domestic violence with the kids this week...sigh.
My response was: Julie K. Aponte at 10:47am February 22
You know Ms..., I had a short but thorough conversation with Mr....the other day at the office (The Leadership Program www.theleadershipprogram.com ) and it was highlighted in a very articulate fashion how much of a teachable moment that is. It's a bit challenging I think,however; this is I must tell you one of the reasons I got into this business other than not having any influential women of color role models in my academic years, being involved in a physically abusive relationship at 17 Made me want to work with kids to make sure this doesn't happen... I feel that this is an opportunity to teach both the boys and the girls. Maybe partnering up with a counselor from victim services and opening up the dialogue with the kids. My family taught me that this wasn't even in the realm of possibility in my world yet I allowed the abuse. It wasn't until I saw my face one day after the worst of all the fights and made the connection to Heda Nussbaum, I decided I had to do something. Nobody really ever discussed it and when him and I use to fight only I would keep it between us. At the victim services office I saw a poster that had roses on top of a casket and the tag line read he beat her 373 times and only sent her flowers ONCE! Then and there I decided Not Me, Never again and I have a responsibility to help young peole build their self esteem so as to not resort to this violence...
so take a deep breathe and go be that fabulous teaching enlightenment venue for those kids. :) Happy Sunday!
So now, what do you think?